Heart’s Day and Pablo Neruda

In two days, it will be Valentine’s Day which is celebrated in many parts of the world. Roses, chocolates, love songs and yes, love poems will somehow flood that day. And speaking of love poems, I’m reminded of one of my favorite poets, Pablo Neruda (1904-1973). Just to give us all a bit of inspiration, let me share with you one of his poems ๐Ÿ™‚

 

You and Your Partner and the 5 Love Languages

Years back, I read the book: The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. It has helped me understand that people can express and receive love differently and how these realities can affect my relationships, especially with my spouse. To get a basic understanding of these love languages, check out the video below of Gary Chapman himself. ย And of course, you can get a copy of the book to help you understand more ๐Ÿ™‚

The 5 Ingredients for a Perfect Relationship

Relationships are somewhat like a recipe. You are an ingredient; your partner is an ingredient. The salad dressing is the conversation, the chocolate is your favourite memories as a couple and the salt and pepper are the emotions. Mixed together you all create an amazing meal. But what are the five ingredients for creating the perfect relationship?

They are…

1. Regular “couple time”

We all live busy lives and when we include our loved ones, it just gets busier. It takes good time management to live a good and yet still busy life. You have to make time for your loved ones to stay connected. You could either dedicate a date night or combine couple time with something else. Here is an idea… instead of rushing off to the gym or a run alone, make that your couple time. You are keeping fit while spending valuable time together.

2. Lose the expectations

Instead of depending on your partner for your happiness, depend on yourself. You won’t be around your partner all day. You have your own job. Your own friends, your own personality and your own world. This doesn’t mean that your partner can’t do something that makes you feel appreciated and loved, it just means that you will be okay when they shift their focus onto something else. This is realistic and gives your relationship the freedom it deserves. Your partner can’t be your band aid all of the time.

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3. Nurture the ‘friend zone

Unlike its namesake, the friend zone can mean a great number of things. In a relationship, it is about nurturing your time as best friends. Like hanging out and having fun doing something you both enjoy. Every relationship begins on a friendship and if you’re stuck for ideas, try and remember what you did on your first lot of dates. Did you have a favourite restaurant? Did you go to a game? Or to a particular show? Cultivate your shared interests and go for it. Laugh hard and talk the night away.

4. Listen and respect each other

Really listen to what your partner is saying. That way you can both avoid some miscommunication. Take into account their feelings and respect them for it because everyone is entitled to feel how they really feel. If there’s something you’d like your partner to do, talk about it. But tell them, simply, directly and using kind words. Yelling out a demand can send the wrong message.

5. Steam up the windows

The bedroom is where you can express how you really feel about each other in the privacy of your own home. Is your love life lacking? If so, maybe you need some extra spicing to revive up the passion. For ideas, check out Naughty But Nice. They have a huge collection on toys and remedies you can use. Intimacy is all about being open to the point where you can share your entire self with your loved one without feeling insecure or ashamed.

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